What my sister wrote to me in emails recently
My sister's name is Emily. And these are what she wrote me: Hey Alex, This is Emily. I just wanted to thank you for helping with my tuition. School's really expensive right now, so it really means a lot. Anyway, I have two books for you when I see you next time, kind of as a 'thank you.' Have you heard of the Pick Up Artist? It has to do with that. Also, I wanna come see your house, but I don't think I have time before I go back to New York. Thanks again! Then I replied: No, no. I want you to come to see my house. I can pick you up tomorrow if you want. Maybe I should spend some time with you. I will tell you why later. Your other brother Kenney has stolen close to $60,000 from my apartment building account. I caught this guy after he continuously stole from me for 10 month. the bank is the one which informed me that there are suspicious activities in my account and therefore I visited the bank and found out that this bastard has stolen so much money from the company. I trusted him completely. I bought him the car of his choice. I gave him a nice job. And the very moment he took over the apartments he ran to jewelry dealer and bought his girlfriend a $10,000 diamond ring with my apartment's money. It's not his money so he just went ahead and bought the most expensive ring he can find. Yeah the ring that his wife wears is a stolen property that he has stolen from his own brother. Then every month he spent $5000 or $6000 drinking, partying, and eating. He bought expensive cloths and souped up his car like 3 times. He thinks he's prince charming by stealing from his own relative. Now he tricked his girlfriend to USA and got her married to him. And now what do they live like? 2 poor couple living in a room eating peanut butter jelly sandwich for a living. I swear the God if I am his wife I would divorce him and just find another man IMMEDIATELY. This man is a con artist. He stole from his relative and tricked the girl to marry him. The girl thought that he's rich because he presented her a $10,000 diamond ring with receipt. Flew back to Spain and spent hella money on her with my money. Now the girl came to USA to suffer with him living like below average. He also borrowed numerous amount of cash, like maybe $6000 from his X girlfriend sherry. Never paid her back. I mean what kind of man would do this? He's hurting everyone. He never loved his wife. If I love a woman, first of all I would not marry that woman knowing that I cannot support her and fulfill her basic needs. But Kenney just steals from his own brother in order to lure that poor ignorant girl here. I really don't think their relationship would last long. If the relationship does last long, that girl must be extremely stupid. I mean all my friends prepared and saved up some money before they got married so they can at least rent a decent apartment. No wonder grandma never liked Kenney. Grandma kept telling me to be careful about Kenney because she said his mother was a whore. Well, she did work at bars as one of those hostesses that would talk and drink with men for money. That's why her son turns out just as bad. I will never recognize Kenney's sons or daughters as part of the Chiu's family. He's got bad genes. They don't belong to our family. The relationship of me and him is over. He is no longer welcome to my home. I guess you are my only sibling from now on. That's why that day at the restaurant I was so excited to see you, knowing that you are the only sister that I got. And you be careful about Kenney. That guy is a wolf. A very poisonous and a bad man. So now he agrees to pay you the $200 a month because he owes me so much money. Oh by the way, you can sleep over sometimes or even live in my house whenever you want. I can give you a set of keys. You are my only relative left. Kind of. You know I don't like Father. I hate him actually. And your mom. well, she didn't treat me too well when I was a teen. Oh I saw that show on VH1. I followed every episode. But still too shy to talk to girls in bars. But I am using Gorgeouspil like crazy and am looking more and more gorgeous everyday. I figure some day girls will come talk to me without me opening my mouth. Then she replied: Hey, sorry, I haven't been online all day. I wanna see your house, but I really don't think I'll have a chance to until around like Thanksgiving or whenever the next time I come home is; I'm just really busy at my job b/c I'm going to LA soon and then after that I'm going to NY. But Kenney told me that your house is very nice. I'll definitely make time to come see it the next time I'm home though. I'm not surprised to hear about everything with Kenney b/c my mom told me a little bit about how you guys weren't talking anymore and were fighting about money. However, I haven't personally spoken to him in depth about it. I understand that you guys are no longer on good terms at this point, but he's still your brother, just like both of you are still my brothers, despite the differences that we may have. Family is all you really have in the end; they are the people who, in the end, will be there for you. They are the only people you can rely on. Even if they broke your trust, maybe somehow they can regain it if you'll let them. I'm not saying that he deserves that. Obviously I wasn't a part of what happened between you two, but you did used to be really close and that's something to think about. I'm not on his side; I just think that burning bridges is something that most people are too quick to do. I will be the first to admit that our family members have IMMENSE faults, but at the same time, they are still your family, and they're the only family you will ever have. You can't get a new one, so you just have to accept the hand you've been dealt and try to cope with it. If you want to have any kind of relationship with me, I have to ask you to please not to talk that way about our family. They've obviously done things that are terrible, but people make mistakes, and these people happen to be our family, people we will be tied to for the rest of our lives. I just aim to get along with them and hope that we can all have long-lasting relationships, despite each of our faults and trespasses. Please try to understand that although sometimes I hate them too, I can't allow myself to talk that way about them or listen to anyone else talk about them like that because in the end, they are part of my family. Anyway, I might go to one more Sunday lunch before I leave, but I'm not sure. If I don't, I'll ask someone to give you the books that I was telling you about. I'm sure they'll help you get over your shyness with girls. Then I replied: You say you can have one more Sunday lunch? This means you are free this entire week. You have to come down to my house and take a look. I tell you the truth none of the cousins came. None. Not Jennifer, not Ester, not stella, nor Karen. But I don't care about them. They are either too jealous or they are simply on Kenney's side. They are only cousins. Kenney didn't come until just 2 weeks ago. He came because he needed to pick up the license plate sticker for his car since the plate was long expired and he needed it fast. I bought the house almost 8 months ago. Yes, it took him that long to visit my house, which further hurt my feelings. And he came not because he wanted to see my house. He came because he needed the license plate sticker ASAP. I don't want you to turn out to be a cold hearted person like him. I want you to visit my house at once. No excuses from you this time. I will pick you up tomorrow. I will call you. You visit my house before you take the trip. Well, your brother didn't steal close to $60000 from you, leaving 9 out of 29 apartments empty simply because he's too lazy to advertise for me on craigslist.org. After I fired him, I immediately rented all of the apartments out. He told me it was very hard to rent it all out. But I rented all out within 2 weeks, which proves he was just a lying good for nothing prick. And your father didn't shove your head thru the front gate breaking the lock which caused a severe concusion to your skull, nor did he take the entire family to Disney Land leaving you behind to safeguard the house from robbers when you were only 11, and constantly taking the entire family out to dinner leaving only you at home. Nor did he beat you with tennis bat and fists when you were only 12, nor did he force you to eat spoiled cereal in the morning, nor did he force you to drink human milk when you were 12 in order to stimulate Kenney's mother's milk production. So to you family is still Disney channel. But to me, it's hell. If Kenney ends up in jail or in hospital, I won't even bother to ask for the address. Father asked me numerous times to lend him money. He's dreaming. And what's between you and Kenney is none of my business. But I warn you, don't let him take advantage of you. He is the lowest scum I've met. My words are said. You just beware of him. Then she replied: Sorry, I don't know if I'll be able to come see your house. It is my last week at work, which means I have a lot to do before I leave, and I'm going to LA the day after my internship ends. There are a lot of things I need to get done before I leave for New York, and I'm really pressed for time. But I really do want to come see it. If I didn't want to come see your house, I wouldn't have told you that I wanted to. I am a pretty straightforward person. I'll let you know if I'm able to when I get back from LA. I'll only have a few days to pack and get everything settled, so we'll see. I will try my best. Again, I'm not telling you to forgive them. I'm just saying that they're family, and they're people you will be stuck w/ for the rest of your life, whether you want to or not so you might want to try and learn to deal with them. I am not on Kenney's side; I would tell anyone else the same thing if they were fighting with a family member. And again, I have to repeat this: If you want to have any kind of relationship with me, you have to respect our family while I'm around you and refrain from insulting them. Outside of our interactions we can both hold whatever views we wish, but I am asking you politely to please resist from trying to sway my views on them. And again, I'll let you know when I get back from LA if I am able to come and see you and your house. Do you still have your cats, by the way? Then I replied: Well, you and I never had any kind of relationship. Agree? What relationship did we have? Did we ever watch a movie together? Did you ever talk to me about your school? Your friends, etc? So what bargaining chip do you hold? All I know is I pay you $200 a month tuition, and you cap on me a lot when ever we met. I say we are real brother and sister. But you insist that I am only good enough to be your 'half brother'. So I kind of don't understand what you mean. What valuable relationship do you and I hold? What bargaining chip do you hold? I am going to repeat this. This family is not a family of mine. Father is a coward child abuser who only knows how to hurt kids. Kenney is a scumbag good for nothing, and nothing can change the way how I describe him. If you don't like to hear what I say, its too bad. But there is no relationship to begin with. It's not your fault that you and I have absolutely no relationship. It's your mother. She made you feel that I am not part of the family, always demanded you to address me as "Yuan Chun Ge Ge". Now since your mother realizes I am the most trustworthy and the most reliable relative, she started to pull you and I together with a smily face. I gladly play the role of a clown in front of both you and Kenney. But now things are different. Both of you are grown ups, and there is no need for me to act like a clown anymore. You remember this: You are the only one in the family who I don't hate. (Well, I don't hate your mother either. She didn't do anything very bad to me. But certainly too far away from me.) I am offering to be a relative of yours. In future you might need my help. I probably won't need your help though. You're still young. So Im not going to argue with you. You don't want to see my house, fine. If you didn't email me, I probably won't remember to ask you to come see it anyways. I just want to test your loyalty, see what kind of person you are. Seeing my house won't help me grow money tree in my backyard anyways. Pay you $200 a month all these years, never asked for any kind of pay back, and you are too busy to drop by for 30 minutes. I am not your father. I am just your 'half brother' like you always insisted. Fine. From now on Kenney is responsible for $200 a month on your tuition anyways. That was our deal when I caught him stealing. Ask him for it. Hopefully he will earn enough to cover you. If he cannot earn enough to come up with the $200 a month, well, I am 'too busy' to cover you for the next 4 years. Maybe when I am not busy, I might help you out. Yeah that's right. You think you are the only one who's busy. Actually everybody is busy. Nobody has time for nobody. I am not going to act like a clown in front of you anymore. I am shopping for a Rolls Royce now and my business is expanding to cover nearly 30 magazines. Who goes against me definitely is the clown. The only relationship we had is in your head. And I do appreciate it a lot. I admit it. I always thought that there is something very good between us. I always thought that there is a relationship between us. But reality is reality. I at the end only wanted some respect. Nobody pays me any respect. Too busy to visit my house. Too jealous to come see, etc. Excuses after excuses. At the end none of them came. Im fed up with it. I thought you are my last comfort. Apparently not. I even offered to give you the keys to the house. You are a special relative, okay. I admit it. Then she replied: You know, I can't deny (nor am I trying to deny) that we've ever had any sort of relationship, but I haven't said anything mean-spirited to you in years. You could say that I've become less immature and maybe that's why. Lately I've honestly felt like maybe we could have a relationship, especially because I'm realizing now just how important family is to me. But if that's not a priority to you, then that's fine. I hope that you realize that in the past email correspondences I've had with you, I've done nothing but try and get along with you. I haven't said anything that could be considered rude or inconsiderate, and you've done nothing but. I asked you very kindly not to speak about MY family that way (since you clearly don't consider them to be YOUR family), but you refused. That's literally all I have asked you to do. I am not trying to use my "relationship" with you as a bargaining chip. I was only trying to get closer to my family, and that is why I'm even reaching out to you in the first place, and that is also why I have asked you not to speak poorly of Kenny, dad, or my mom. And I'll tell you one more time that I'm not trying to change your mind of how you feel about my family. You can feel however you feel, but I personally do not want to hear about people that I care about to be talked about in that manner. You wouldn't want me to talk about people you care about to talk about them that way either. I hope you get what I mean, but if you don't, that's fine. I was offering you a chance to get to know me, but it's fine if you don't want to, even though you just told me that I was the only family you had left. I'm not trying to antagonize you. I was just hoping for us to all get along better. I wasn't even asking for you to forgive them. I bought those pickup artist books for you to help you with women, because that seems like something you're interested in. But instead, I feel like the last email you sent me was very defensive. Yes, of course I appreciate the financial help you've given me in the past, but I wasn't mature enough to thank you for it. I'm thanking you now. Obviously it's coming much later than it should have, but better late than never. Maybe you don't believe that, but that's what I believe and that's why I'm trying to build a relationship with you. If you don't think that 'better late than never' is true for us having a relationship, that's ok; I tried. It sounds like your business is doing pretty well, and I only wish you continued luck in the future. Then I replied: Come to think of it, I probably won't talk about Kenney and Father in front of you anymore. They ain't nobody to me anyways. I am just telling you exactly what Kenney has done to me so that you can be careful about him. It's a one time thing. I probably won't even mention about him nor dad anymore. So you got nothing to worry about. I have nothing against your mom. She is a good mother and a great wife. Truly that's how I think. Just unfortunate that she's not my mom. I don't hate her nor do I like her. Still kind of hurt since you won't come no matter what I say. I know you got lots of time but you are just making up excuses not to come. Pacifica is only 15 minutes drive away from Foster City. A tour of my house lasts no more than 10 minutes. If it's your mother, I bet she would immediately drive to my house and give me a very warm greeting and might even bring candies. She knows how to treat people. She's extremely flexible. Why you so stubborn?

And your father didn't shove your head thru the front gate breaking the lock which caused a severe concusion to your skull, nor did he take the entire family to Disney Land leaving you behind to safeguard the house from robbers when you were only 11, and constantly taking the entire family out to dinner leaving only you at home. Nor did he beat you with tennis bat and fists when you were only 12, nor did he force you to eat spoiled cereal in the morning, nor did he force you to drink human milk when you were 12 in order to stimulate Kenney's mother's milk production. So to you family is still Disney channel. But to me, it's hell. If Kenney ends up in jail or in hospital, I won't even bother to ask for the address. Father asked me numerous times to lend him money. He's dreaming. Your father is a sick f*ck

Yeah. Interesting email conversation. Allows me to introduce you guys my family. My father is a sick bastard.

I'm surprised they don't want to come to your house if I was in Cali and my brother(if I had one, or cousin)made decent income and just bought a nice house I'd be over there in a flash; I would take a vacation especially if I got offered to stay there. Which of your family members wears the rings?

That is probably the reason you have problems with girls and frustrate so many of your customers Alex, you are still smarting from terrible abuse. It would probably help you a great deal to see a EMDR counsellor to remove those traumas from creating havoc in your mind and life and get some follow up counselling for a good time as well. If you do that I'm sure you would be a lot more of a attractive proposition to women and your behaviour wouldn't sabotage you in dating and in business. You may not realise it but if you ran your business correctly and got the scientific proof (not fda approval just some independant, written up fairly cheap studies) you would probably be a billionaire by now and not constanly abused by people for how you do things. You would also have enormous credibility and would be changing the world and possibly even how we view science. Imagine how people would view you then and also having sorted out your behaviour? They would think this guy is an absolute legend. You would be treated like a God and would date and have relationships with some of the most beautiful women in the world.

I have to admit this is interesting reading but alex do you really think you should post your sister's private emails to you in a public forum? What's with this "loyalty test" -- it sounds like you are trying to push away even your last part of your family. If you truly want to test your sister, give her a lump sum for her education and say she doesn't have to contact or visit you anymore if she doesn't want to. The way you do it now, threatening to cut off money, you have only insulted her and tried to use your money as a bargaining chip. do you even treat strippers this way? I agree with knightwriter about being a billionaire, etc..., but I don't believe alex is stupid -- he surely knows this, and has known it for a long time.

I am sorry to hear about how you were treated as a child. As I come from a Alcoholic family (not my mom) but everyone else. I know about seeing and living abuse. Just know that it is only you who can fix what is going on. Anger is not the answer. You do not have to be like your family.

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why do you think your sister doesn't want to see your house? she seems nice, so i don't understand.

i agree with KAME, you were a little harsh to her, she only said good things about you and wanted to give you those books and said she will try and make it to your house.. She is the only one you respect now and your almost blowing it - You trying to loose her respect for you ? Also i am surpized you would let KENNEY come to your house at all since you dont want anything to do with him, why let him come to your house ? You did it for your mother. ? Did he apoligise.. ?

See SacJB knows me best. The whole point of this post is "Why is she not coming to my house?" My house is only 15 minutes drive away from her house. She has the whole week off before she leaves for New York. And trust me she ain't got a real job when she's on vacation. She has all this time writing emails to me but no time to visit my house, which takes like 1 hour the most. Why can't she just come? This is not normal. I know why. She was raised and trained by her mother to think of me as an outsider. So to her I am not really a brother, just a man. She is 21 year-old, pretty attractive. She can't just come to my house just like that. She probably wants to bring her mom or somebody along with her, but she's too embarassed to say it. If she tells me, "I am going to visit your house with my mother.", it would sound extremely awkward since we are siblings. Why is there a need for your mother to show up? If she says, "Yeah. I will come right over.", she's facing a certain risk. Therefore, she's trying to drag as long as possible, hoping one day that she can visit my house with lots of other people together and not just her alone. It's not my problem. I am a gentleman. I only had good will. I just want to show her the house and maybe eat lunch with her and talk a little bit cause I never have eaten lunch with her. But to her this whole thing is extremely risky.

Hehehehe. My family is just so f*cked up. Hehehehe. Can't believe it

Alex why should/would she feel at risk with you? Have you ever gave her a reason to feel uncomfortable to be alone with you.

Yeah...The WHOLE Chiu family is pretty F*cked up.

That is really sad, I have 9 brothers and 2 sisters. 4 of my brothers would be called half brothers and 1 brother has no blood at all but he is 3 of my older (half) brothers, youngest brother, he is only 6 months younger than me. But I do not see any of them as anything different than just my brothers. As they don't see me as a half sister. I'm not saying that my family isn't a little different, but than who has a perfect family? Why don't you ask your sister if there is a reason she feels afraid to be along with you. and why?