Marriage
This man and I have been writing to one another for a year and a half, daily! Will we end up married. He lived in Serbia and we have not met but we very 'connected' OR I think so............so my question was......... Will SK and I be married someday? Year: h, Month: t, Day: t-I, Empty: t & c Solution - 40 Commander - 7 G sh - - R yo - - blk R s - - U P h - - wht K w O G c - - gry K w - - K w - - yel G cn - J G cn - red P t B y - - B y - - grn Stable

did you toss asking this question on Jan 1st like the other hex ? anyhow, i don't think you 2 will end up married

Yes I did throw the coins on Jan. 1st. Although the hexagram does not show marriage does it show us continuing on as sweethearts? I still want to meet him and he wants to come here in June (although I have to admit that 'something' feels different about him lately and I just can't put my finger on it, so I am sort of taking a break from writting to him and trying to figure this/us out) Thank you for you interpretation of the hexagram, Sophia (a little sad but its better to know the future I think)

This is the correct hex for your time of toss Year: h, Month: t, Day: t-VII, Empty: cn & e Solution - 40 Commander - 7 G sh - - R yo - - gry R s - - U P h - - yel K w O G c - - red K w - - K w - - grn G cn - J G cn - blk P t B y - - B y - - wht Stable are you his sweetheart ? i mean does he feel same for you as you feel for him ? U line R s (him) is at the death stage at day and monty t. also the upper trigram is not in harmony meaning conflict. Having a yang line on self (J) while his is Yin means you are in control. for a good relationship it should be the opposite. J line, you, G cn blk, is strong but empty. your personal energy level is low. also emptiness here can idicates that what you have in mind about him is still rather confused, being more a condition of the mind, than reality. The change happens in the 4th line. only date t cut the line loose. line will move on day/month w. btw month w starts at June 5th.. and you said he is planing to visit you on June. Best wishes, Sharon

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Hi Sharon and thank you So Much for your email. I've copied and pasted the email you sent me and answered each line in the color yellow below are you his sweetheart ? i mean does he feel same for you as you feel for him ? Yes, he write to me everyday BUT I feel like even though he says I'm his sweetheart and writes me lovely LOVE poems that are fantastic that he's holding back. so I have been thinking that maybe he's got another girlfriend. Also he lives in Serbia so the odds of us 'really' getting married and having a life are slim. Financially speaking I couldn't afford it and he doesn't make much money either, I am in alot of debt and I just don't know how we can do this or how I can get out of debt. I can't move to Serbia with the debt I have cause I couldn't continue to pay the bills and he can't afford it either. He thinks if it is meant to happen it will, I don't know if I can beleive that but would love to. U line R s (him) is at the death stage at day and monty t. also the upper trigram is not in harmony meaning conflict. I am in conflict with myself I have just come to a halt inside myself with him/this relationship. As I said something just doesn't feel right and I told him I needed a break to figure mylife out. I'm not trying to be mean or play games with him but he was becoming the main focus of my life and I felt very out of control. This may be the wrong behavior for me, I just don't know, and that's the point. I don't know .... but something is wrong and I came to this site to try and figure this out. I don't want to waste years only to find out it was never real. BUT I don't want 'fear' to stop me from attaining the best thing that ever happened to me either. Having a yang line on self (J) while his is Yin means you are in control. for a good relationship it should be the opposite. Yes, it's even bothersome that when I told him I needed a break because I was confused about mylife and how he fits into it and how I fit into his life he wrote a lovely email and I have not heard a word from him since. I think and hate to admit that he may just be using me to fill something in his own life but he has no plans of following through on marriage..........and he does even call me his 'wife' sometimes. I've even said to him 'do you know what you are saying? that is a big statement!'..... I asked him because since he is speaking a languge/englis which is not his native tongue I want to make sure that I am understanding the words he is using and visa versa. He never really gives me a direct answer. I feel like he's always speaking in parables to me, never really clear but indicating in some way that he loves me. He write love poems and calls me his love but never says 'I love you' when I asked him about this he said he is 'trying to love me'......I don't know what to think of that. J line, you, G cn blk, is strong but empty. your personal energy level is low. also emptiness here can idicates that what you have in mind about him is still rather confused, being more a condition of the mind, than reality. The change happens in the 4th line. only date t cut the line loose. line will move on day/month w. btw month w starts at June 5th.. and you said he is planing to visit you on June. Yes he said to me in his last email several days ago 'that no matter what I decide to do he will come here to see me in the middle of june. I'd love for us to really hook up and fall inlove. Heck I already love the guy but is it real? I do not want to waste months and years waiting for something that is not going to happen. I don't mean to speak ill of him because he has been good for my life, teaching me to trust and get out of my shell of mistrust. If I am not the one for him then I am not mad at him and i would not hate him. Fate is fate and maybe there is someone better for him and better for me, I don't know. But I can not keep falling passionately in love with someone who is not really sincere. Please forgive me for sounding lame but I can't describe it anyother way or finds the correct words. So are you saying that in June there IS a possiblity of us connecting in 'that way' when he comes here? that we will continue on in a relationship? I really don't care if I am ever married again or not, I just figured for us to come and go from the USA to Serbia it would be better if we were married. UPDATE..... just as I sent this to you I got an email from him. Again he is wonderful and says I am the only one in his heart that he is 'bound' to me. If he is sincerre then I will wait a lifetime for him if I have to. I really do love this guy. That's what I am trying to find out if we can make this happen. Yes I am in controll right now and maybe its the wrong thing for me to do. I want to correct my defects of character if I need to, I want to be the best person I can be and am more than willing to take constructive critisism. Thank you Sharon for your time and for writting back to me, your compassion is very much appreciated, Sophia P.S. you know what? maybe I am just too insecure, maybe I should just relax and let this happen and let him be in control for awhile, I think maybe that would be better cause I'm close to making a big mess of this whole thing.

there's another G star sitting on 6th line but i'm not sure if that G star really means that there's another girl in his life.. i'm far from being an expert so i sent yor hex to someone asking about that. Relaxing and letting things happen is probably a good idea. what's the rush anyway ? :) it's not easy loving when you live so far from one another but at least he said he is trying. is reason he wants to visit you in June , not before, got to do with lack of money ?

Hi Sharon, Thank you for your reply. Yes the reason for the June visit is he will have enough money to come here then. He's also taking care of his Mom who is in her late 80's and is failing fast and sending his daughter to the University and he makes less that a thousand dollars a month (in his country that is consicered alot of money). But he's a happy guy inside, he's a Rugby coach for a local team and he can't get off work till June anyway. I think I am just being an American in that I want 'it all now' and I've thought about what you've said tonight in 'what's the rush'? He's a great guy. I hope we will be mates/together forever, I love him and today in an email he told me that I was then one who 'holds his heart', maybe he just doesn't express himself like I do with him cause he's speaking another language that is not his native tongue. I don't want to be the one in control or a control freak, if that is what is blocking me and him then I will change that immediatly. I remember reading in the Wilhelm/Baynes edtion of the I Ching (I call it The Yellow Book) 'the I Ching makes you aware of what is going on outside your immediate preseption' (or something close to those words). I just want to know what the future holds for me, I have messed up in my life being with the wrong man before and I just don't want to do it again. Maybe this is my chance to learn how to trust again :oops: I don't know ; but I am willing to correct any 'not good' behavior that I have. Life is too short not to be happy. My dream forever has to been to find my and be with my soul mate. I have been thinking that it could be SK. Sincerely I thank you Sharon for your compassion, Sophia One more thing; I just re-read something you wrote to me J line, you, G cn blk, is strong but empty. your personal energy level is low. also emptiness here can idicates that what you have in mind about him is still rather confused, being more a condition of the mind, than reality. and yes I am feeling confused and I don't know if its just about him or my life in general which I am not satisfied with at all and looking for a way or a sign or something to change it. I really thought I should stop writing to him for awhile cause I was putting my misery on him and beginning to blame him for not loving me enough and I knew that was wrong to do to him so that's why I wanted to take a break and try and sort my life out. Is that 'being in control' and does that mean I am not sharing my heart with him? I don't want to put pressure on him but maybe I have by withdrawing. In trying to do the correct thing maybe I have done the incorrect thing. I want to learn how to have a healthy relationship with a man. I just need to slow down and believe it or not this communication with you and the I Ching is really helping me to see myself. Thank you.

moving line are important! 4th line is your hex will move when w day/month arrive (month w starts at June 5th). Than line will change from yang (-) to Yin (--). change is the conversion of a yielding (- -) line into a firm one (-). This means progress. Transformation is the conversion of a firm line into a yielding one. This means retrogression. When 4th line moves I -Ching says "Deliver yourself from your great toe. Then the companion comes, And him you can trust." "In times of standstill it will happen that inferior people attach themselves to a superior man, and through force of daily habit they may grow very close to him and become indispensable, just as the big toe is indispensable to the foot because it makes walking easier. But when the time of deliverance draws near, with its call to deeds, a man must free himself from such chance acquaintances with whim he has no inner connection. For otherwise the friends who share his views, on whom he could really rely and together with whom he could accomplish something, mistrust him and stay away. " http://www.akirarabelais.com/i/i.html#40 well, i hope when June arrives things will beacome clear for you. U line represent him or his feelings for you. alex says in book "If the self line is a solid line and the U line is dotted, the marriage or the relationship is far from good. didn't mean saying you control him. you are to firm or rigid with him. i think you need to be nicer there is no point blaming him for not loving you enough. he lives so far, what can he do ?? I really hope things will turn up the way you want. From my point of view it's better to be alone than in a false realtionship. life it to short for that! Sharon